Your Children Are Not Your Children

Posted on January 8, 2016 by

“Your children are not your children.

They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.”

~Khalil Gibran

I had 25 days when I could pretend that life was what I took for granted for 18 years. For 25 days, I woke up and my mental inventory was simple – both babies asleep in their beds, both under my roof.

Before, I used to never think for a moment about the extraordinary in the ordinary – I took it for granted that I was their mom, they were my children, and that every day – while surprises would undoubtedly rush in – my son and daughter would both be here. They would both be within arm’s reach every night.

These two children – they satisfied my longing for myself.

my children

I’m not so sure that in those ordinary moments of life, though, we really realize what is happening. We take for granted the long days full of routine adventures. We tuck these children in and kiss their silky heads and go on with all the other things we think are so important.

That I thought were so important.

Did I even notice for a moment that they were both where they belonged?


But this morning, when I wake up on the 26th day, my inventory is down. There is one less inhale to take. One less child growing and blooming under my roof. One less within arm’s reach.

My son and daughter, my life longing for itself. My children.

Life – you have two marvelous humans to take care of, two children to watch over, to take joy in the blessings they offer to the world. Life, please, love them fiercely.

Thank you to Goodreads for inspiring me with this quote today.

Jennifer Wolfe

Jennifer Wolfe, a writer-teacher-mom, is dedicated to finding the extraordinary in the ordinary moments of life by thinking deeply, loving fiercely, and teaching audaciously. Jennifer is a Google Certified Educator, Hyperdoc fanatic, and a voracious reader. Read her stories on her blog, mamawolfe, and grab free copies of her teaching and parenting resources.

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Comments: 7

  • Lindsey

    January 9, 2016

    I love these lines, and could not agree more fiercely that our children don’t belong to us. There’s a song version of this passage – by, I think, Sweet Honey in the Rock or something – that I had on an old lullabye CD when my children were small. It’s been in my head non-stop since I first read this post. Such truth. Thank you. xox

  • Lisa

    January 8, 2016

    Bawling – as usual.

    • Jennifer Wolfe

      January 8, 2016

      Aw- sorry- but it is nice knowing someone is right here with me on this.

  • Balroop Singh

    January 8, 2016

    Your reflections are heart-warming as well as heart-wrenching Jen. Life is so paradoxical yet so beautiful…those silky heads grow and so do we!
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    • Jennifer Wolfe

      January 8, 2016

      Balroop, thank you! I’m trying to take ultimate joy in the beauty of the paradox- you are right on with that comment!

  • Tiffiney

    January 8, 2016

    LOVE that quote.
    Beautifully stated Jen.
    And yes, I’m guilty of taking it for granted sometimes!


    • Jennifer Wolfe

      January 8, 2016

      Thank you, Tiffiney. I hope you enjoy every second of your adventures with your babies!

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