Friday Photo – The First Halloween

1999

Sometimes as I’m moving around in my day, an image gets stuck in my head that I can’t shake. Sometimes it conjures up a memory, a feeling, or provides an impulse to do something. Often, though, I just see something that I want to capture in my mind for no particular reason-it just speaks to me. I’d like to offer these images up for ‘thought contributions’-as a way to generate a community of ideas together.

Today’s Friday Photo is in honor of when the fun began just over 12 years ago.  I think many parents dream of the time when their babies can participate in all the rituals of childhood – first steps, first words, birthday parties, Easter egg hunts, Christmas morning, and dressing up for Halloween.  For me, my September baby was easily disguised in a hot chili pepper costume, while his adoring sister became the least scary witch I’ve ever seen.  I’ve always thought it was interesting to see what people choose for their own Halloween costumes, let alone how they dress up their houses, pets, and children!  Did my early intervention of my son’s costume predetermine his adoration of habanero salsa? 

All these years later, Halloween has changed in our house.  We still have the decorations, the pumpkin carving (much more elaborate than ever, thanks to the children’s talents), and they will both still go trick or treating.  What’s changed, however, is that I have little to no say over their costumes. Both kids have strong ideas of what they will or won’t wear, and my advice is not given much weight.  But when I really think about it, isn’t that what it’s all about?  Trying on new personas, new styles, new masks, until we find the one that fits us best?  And if we’re really going to be authentic, it needs to come from within.  No one should tell us who we’re going to be.  Not even our parents.

What does your costume say about you this year?  Are you being your authentic you?

Jennifer Wolfe

Jennifer Wolfe, a writer-teacher-mom, is dedicated to finding the extraordinary in the ordinary moments of life by thinking deeply, loving fiercely, and teaching audaciously. Jennifer is a Google Certified Educator, Hyperdoc fanatic, and a voracious reader. Read her stories on her blog, mamawolfe, and grab free copies of her teaching and parenting resources.

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13 thoughts on “Friday Photo – The First Halloween

  1. Kathy says:

    It was always bittersweet when my kids started to pick out their own costumes! Now that they are 6,9 and almost 13 they each know what they want to be. This year we had the strange experience of watching our oldest who has always loved the holiday be very indifferent till the last minute! I miss the baby costumes!! But, it is wonderful to get to watch our children grow up and find their own paths! Thanks for a great post!

  2. I just got down all the outside decorations. I wasn’t going to because the boys (15 and 12) didn’t seem to care about it. Then I decided, “Yes” we need to do it!

    Of course, as soon as they saw all the stuff, they got into the spirit and helped me put everything out. The glowing skeleton, the ghost that moves up and down and howls when someone comes close, the gravestones, the red-eyed monster…and of course, we must cob-web the entire front yard. It looks fabulous and I am so glad I went for it!

    I do miss the costumes and tagging along as they trick-or-treated. That part make me sad. But I guess they do have to grow up….

  3. Susan Kane says:

    I am going as a cowgirl. I bought really cool red cowboy boots at an antique store. Gotta use ’em whenever I can. Check them out at:
    http://thecontemplativecat.blogspot.com/2011/09/my-secret-desire.html

    It is as close as I will ever be to the real thing.

  4. LOve ur blog coming over from Fabulous Finds Midweek Hopalong (catching up)! come by join and say hello!!http://thebrookiecookie.blogspot.com/

  5. mamawolfe says:

    Hi Kathy~I agree…bittersweet. Hopefully, mostly sweet 🙂
    Hi MA~your yard sounds ghastly! My husband and kids insist on putting up our scary clown every year…it’s not as bad now that my kids are bigger than it is, but it used to freak me out!
    Hi Susan~ the boots sound lovely! My girl couldn’t find any no matter where she looked-what a find!
    Hi Brookie~ thanks for joining mamawolfe!

  6. Sandi says:

    I haven’t dressed up since I powdered my hair, wore granny clothes and funky glasses, and scared my girls half to death when I walked into the living room! Of course, I think they were about 4 and 2 at the time! Now they’re at college and who knows what they dress up like!

    But, I love having the neighbor kids come, and as I teach in the same neighborhood, I always have current and former students come by. It’s a lot of fun for me.

  7. You’re children are so adorable! I love their costumes. Thanks for following my blog! I’m also following yours via GFC, and I look forward to your posts! 🙂

  8. Kim Bee says:

    Adorable. My kids are older so we’re past the costume stage. But I got my dog a few. Lol.

  9. Dee says:

    No costume this year although I do a mean Rudolph at Christmas time! No, the costume I wore for Halloween is what I wear throughout the fall and winter months: sweat shirt and pants and a turtleneck with a cap that pulls down over my head so that the heat doesn’t escape. That way I can keep down my heating bills. So yes, I wear the cap–and sometimes a down-filled vest–in the house. When people come to the door they do a double-take! Ah, frugality!

  10. Elena says:

    I like the costume stage. The Halloween costumes as well. My girls are so….adorable.

  11. That’s an adorable photo. Hope your kiddoes had a great Halloween. 🙂

  12. mamawolfe says:

    Hi Sandi~your comment made me laugh…I used to dress up like a witch until I realized that I was way too scary!
    Hi Gwendolyn~thanks for stopping by!
    Hi Kim~I’m sure my dog will be in for it in a few years when my kids leave the house!
    Hi Dee~Sounds like you and my husband think alike!
    Elena~nothing like adorable cosutmes!
    Hi Nancy~yes, they had a grand time! Now, what to do with the candy…

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