I’ve been a working mom for nearly 20 years, if you count teaching-middle-school-while-pregnant (not an easy feat, believe me). I have to say – it’s made me a better mom.
I’m not trying to judge here. I wouldn’t assume to know your story – I’m just sharing mine.
I strongly believe we all make choices in life, and sometimes we choose things that we realize aren’t in our best interest – but I don’t believe they are wrong choices; instead, they’re opportunities for learning more about ourselves and choosing another path.
I could have chosen to stay at home – I just would have had to choose everything that went along with that. For me, being a working mom was what offered me balance, a center, and a way to indulge all aspects of my self.
As a teacher, being a working mom created definite problems – papers to grade during every karate class or gymnastics meet. An inability to feel like I could always be open about what my kids were experiencing while enrolled in classes taught by colleagues. A lack of salary increase, no 401k to retire on or work ‘vacations’ they could tag along to interesting places.
However, being a working mom had certain perks – similar schedules to my children, an understanding of what their days were like, and, since they went to my school, an opportunity to know all their friends and classmates.
With 25 years of teaching and two teenagers later, I still feel the pull for balance, I still feel the urge to create boundaries and keep my priorities front and center. Today, I’m sharing my words for working moms on The Educator’s Room in hopes that my experiences can connect with yours and that together we can find strength in this parenting journey.
“I’ve always been a working mom. I guess I should qualify that – I’ve always been a work-outside-the-home mom. Since I was in my thirties before I had both children, I spent several years teaching before they rocked my world…and to be honest, it was a struggle to figure out how I could balance it all. I loved being a teacher.”
http://theeducatorsroom.com/2016/03/balancing-teaching-mothering/
Comments: 3
Pam
March 30, 2016Couldn’t agree more strongly. I’ve been a full-time professor and mom throughout my kids’ lives, and 20 years later we’re all still standing (and thriving.) Is it hard to find balance? Of course. But that’s the case for every mom–we.all have to balance out own needs with our kids’.
Jennifer Wolfe
March 30, 2016Thanks,Pam. It’s nice to hear from other working moms who have been through the struggle of balance and have come out feeling like we can each make our choices and feel satisfied. Thanks for taking the time to comment today.
Lindsey
March 22, 2016Off to read your piece. I’m a lifelong working outside of the home mom too. Trade offs for sure. Wouldn’t do it any other way though. xoxox