My Favorite Irish Poet: Just In Time For St. Patrick’s Day

Posted on March 16, 2015 by

Teaching poetry to eighth grade students has never been the easiest lesson.  Just the mere mention of a poem and panic washes over their faces, the assumption that they will never understand a word of what is written.

The Irish feminist poet, Eavan Boland, however, is one of the more accessible modern poets.  She crafts her poetry with an accessible diction, and while most certainly not obvious, her themes are often representative of the human condition.

Eavan Boland was born in 1944 in Dublin, Ireland.  She was educated in Ireland and the United States, and published her first work in 1980.  Having won her most prestigious poetry award in 1994, she currently is a professor at Stanford University in Palo Alto, California.  Tackling issues of the female body, relationships, aging and survival, Boland’s poetry provides a view of women both modern and historical.

“Anorexic”

Tackling a current female issue, Boland’s poem “Anorexic” grips the reader with bold language and  graphic imagery.

 

“I vomited

her hungers.

Now the bitch is burning.

 

I am starved and curveless.

I am skin and bone.

She has learned her lesson.”

 

The reader is left understanding the personal demon living inside anorexics, and questioning the autobiographical nature of the poem.

 

“Quarantine”

 

In 1847, the Irish famine contributed to a great immigration to the United States.  Boland’s poem, “Quarantine”, bluntly depicts the struggle of a couple trying to survive, all hope of a ‘normal’ and loving existence lost to the injustice of famine.

 

“In the morning they were both found dead.

Of cold. Of hunger. Of the toxins of a whole history.

But her feet were held against his breastbone.

The last heat of his flesh was his last gift to her.

 

Let no love poem ever come to this threshold.

There is no place here for the inexact

praise of the easy graces and sensuality of the body.

There is only time for this merciless inventory.”

 

The imagery of the couple trying to press their bodies together in a last attempt at survival graphically illustrates the tragic level of Irish peasants found themselves in 1847.

 

“What Language Did”

 

Boland writes of the loss of youth and fertility in her poem, “What Language Did”.  The imagery of the female constellations as viewed by the subject on a rainy spring night, and by giving words to our thoughts we confront the reality of aging.

 

“This is what language did to us. Here

is the wound, the silence, the wretchedness

of tides and hillsides and stars where

 

we languish in a grammar of sighs,

in the high-minded search for euphony,

in the midnight rhetoric of poesie.

 

We cannot sweat here. Our skin is icy.

We cannot breed here. Our wombs are empty.

Help us to escape youth and beauty.”

Who are your favorite Irish poets?

Jennifer Wolfe

Jennifer Wolfe, a writer-teacher-mom, is dedicated to finding the extraordinary in the ordinary moments of life by thinking deeply, loving fiercely, and teaching audaciously. Jennifer is a Google Certified Educator, Hyperdoc fanatic, and a voracious reader. Read her stories on her blog, mamawolfe, and grab free copies of her teaching and parenting resources.

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Fill Your Own Bucket on BonBon Break

Posted on March 13, 2015 by

This week I’m publishing a brand new essay exclusively on BonBon Break – it’s called “The Days Are Long”, and you can read it here.

For the month of March, BonBon Break accepted submissions for their theme, Fill  Your Bucket, and I was happy to have my post selected. As moms, so often we neglect ourselves in order to take care of everyone else…my post offers some tips on how to find fulfillment and happiness at every stage of motherhood.

Thanks for clicking over to BonBon Break to read “The Days Are Long” – and while you’re there, treat yourself to some of the other amazing essays:

Living By Example,

Why Moms Should Run Away

Waging The Gun War, One Hug At a Time

To The Empty Bucket Carriers

Five Ways Moving Helped Our Family

Mini-Meditations for Busy People

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Go ahead – fill your bucket with some lovely words this weekend!

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Jennifer Wolfe, a writer-teacher-mom, is dedicated to finding the extraordinary in the ordinary moments of life by thinking deeply, loving fiercely, and teaching audaciously. Jennifer is a Google Certified Educator, Hyperdoc fanatic, and a voracious reader. Read her stories on her blog, mamawolfe, and grab free copies of her teaching and parenting resources.

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Toasts: The Perfect Words to Celebrate Every Occasion

Posted on March 10, 2015 by

That time of year is sneaking up on us again…when we are drowning in celebrations and occasions and oozing with smiles and happiness. A time when introverts like me hardly know what to do with ourselves, let alone what to say when we’re put on the spot. The right words usually come to me at the wrong time – about sixty seconds AFTER the fact!

Help is here! No longer will you be sweating the public speaking, or kicking yourself for thinking of that witty one-liner just a little too late.  The recently published book, Toasts: The Perfect Words to Celebrate Every Occasion by June Cotner and Nancy Tupper Ling answers every anxiety ridden thought you might have about what to say, when to say it, and how to walk away feeling like you nailed it.

Toasts Toasts was a long time coming; author June Cotner worked on the compilation of quotes and sayings for nearly a decade before connecting with writer Nancy Tupper Ling. Together they compiled words for every occasion – a peek inside offers everything from a guide to toasting (remember to introduce yourself), etiquette basics (thank the host, make eye contact, go out strong), and a plethora of delicious words for any occasion. 

As a verified ‘word nerd’, I’ve long kept journals of my own ideas, as well as of poetry, quotes, and other assorted lists of things I know I’ll never remember. One aspect of Toasts that I particularly like is the ability to use lines from a variety of well-known and yet-to-be known writers even when I’m not standing in front of a crowd. For example, in the “Birthdays” chapter, I might use an adaptation from William Butler Yeats, “In every succeeding year, may you sing more than you weep” when writing about my children growing up. Found in the “Charity” chapter, Thomas L. Reid’s quote, “May we realize that the best exercise for our hear is bending down and lifting up others” is perfect for my stories of working in Nicaragua. And in “Pets”, George Eliot’s words connect completely with writing about my dog, Cola: “Animals are such agreeable friends-they ask no questions, they pass no criticisms.”

Toasts has something for all the common toasting occasions: for school or camp reunions (is your high school 30th creeping up on you?), to guests and hosts, and high school and college graduations (“You’ve earned your degree, You’ve made the grade, Success will be yours, once your loans are paid” – ugh, does that hit home!). Family reunions (we have a big one in August-and this year, I’ll be ready!), weddings, and memorials each fill a chapter, too. But Toasts also offers some surprises: four chapters devoted to children, children’s blessings (“May you be blessed by your dreams, and the courage to chase them” – ooh, I’m writing that one down!), children’s graces and children’s toasts (those would have come in handy about 20 years ago when I was surrounded by pregnant friends!), homecoming (yes-my college student should make an appearance in June!), patriotic toasts (Grand ‘ole flag party?), and 16 different holidays (May your neighbors respect you, trouble neglect you, the angels protect you, and heaven accept you – gotta love the Irish!).

Whether you’re an anxious first time toaster, a seasoned speaker who needs new material, or an introverted writer searching for inspiration, Toasts: The Perfect Words to Celebrate Every Occasion, is the perfect compilation for you. Perfect words to celebrate life, love, and the extraordinary in the ordinary.

Disclosure: I received a copy of Toasts: The Perfect Words to Celebrate Every Occasion for review purposes. These are affiliate links. 

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Jennifer Wolfe, a writer-teacher-mom, is dedicated to finding the extraordinary in the ordinary moments of life by thinking deeply, loving fiercely, and teaching audaciously. Jennifer is a Google Certified Educator, Hyperdoc fanatic, and a voracious reader. Read her stories on her blog, mamawolfe, and grab free copies of her teaching and parenting resources.

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Living In Between Love and Fear

Posted on March 6, 2015 by

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“…the Outside had taught him that there wasn’t much difference between loving someone and being afraid of them. Loving a person meant needing them to stay: alive, around. But the shadow that love can’t help but cast is fear: fear they won’t stay alive or around–fear they’ll be reckless, or doomed, or just walk away and not consider you ever again. With love, you’re scared it will disappear. With fear, you’re scared it never will. The trick…was getting used to both of them at the same time. It was living in between.”

~Michael Christie, from If I Die, If I Fall

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Jennifer Wolfe, a writer-teacher-mom, is dedicated to finding the extraordinary in the ordinary moments of life by thinking deeply, loving fiercely, and teaching audaciously. Jennifer is a Google Certified Educator, Hyperdoc fanatic, and a voracious reader. Read her stories on her blog, mamawolfe, and grab free copies of her teaching and parenting resources.

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Better Days: An ALS Documentary

Posted on February 24, 2015 by

Do you remember the Ice Bucket Challenge?

Last summer, millions and millions of people jumped at the chance to dump ice chests, buckets and barrels of ice cold water on themselves, and then challenge their friends to do the same. Social media was saturated with photos, videos and testimonials.

Do you remember why?

The Ice Bucket Challenge was created to raise awareness about ALS, also known as Lou Gehrig’s disease. In several months, over $8 million dollars was raised to fight this horrible, terminal disease that has no treatment or cure. In other words, ALS is a death sentence – and along the way, the sufferer’s  body will slowly lose all ability to move.

I have a friend who has ALS; actually, I met her through my son. Her name is Cathy Speck, and over the last two years she has taught both of us about life and love while she is dying. You might remember her from the story I wrote last fall about the ALS walk we did together, or the Christmas caroling party she organized.

ALS walk

Everyone loves her-can’t you tell?

She really is an amazing woman – and I want her to stay alive. Watch this video clip and you’ll see why:

Nadine El Khoury created this video short about Cathy – and she is also the director of  ‘Better Days’, a documentary she has written, filmed, directed and is producing to share awareness about ALS.  Through a strange twist of fate, she found Cathy’s song, “Sweet Beyond”, online, not knowing Cathy suffered from ALS, too. Cathy and Nadine became fast friends, and a few weeks ago, my son and I attended a fundraising event to support Cathy and help raise awareness for the documentary project. There was no ice bucket, and we weren’t asked to do anything except listen to stories and watch a video trailer for a documentary trying to get finished.

I spent two hours shifting between tears of laughter, sadness and hope, but I left feeling full of love.

You can watch a trailer of the video here.

Nadine’s documentary has captured the essence of ALS: how it strikes at random, often swiftly and without warning, and leaves its victims living a life they never imagined.

You may not know anyone with ALS. You may not want to know about this disease, or how devastating it is. You may not want to think about things that are so frightening or painful or things that could actually happen to you. But if you’ve taken the time to read this post and watch these videos, you know Cathy. And I promise you – you would love her, too.

So I have a favor to ask you.

Did you do the Ice Bucket Challenge? I promise you, my request is much, much easier.

We need your help. In our little town, at our little fundraiser, we gave over $4,400 towards helping get this documentary finished. This movie isn’t for profit- this is a project created by one young woman from Lebanon who had a friend develop ALS who is using her talents to spread the word about a disease. This is from one dying woman who lost her mother, two brothers and an aunt to ALS, and is living more gracefully than many. This is from one mother who has watched her teenage son befriend a woman who is dying, and has seen him enrich his life from knowing her.

This is from one writer asking you to be grateful for your health, and to share what you can to get this film finished. To find a cure for this disease.

To help Cathy live.

To donate, use the “Go Fund Me” buttons on the documentary website, http://betterdaysfilm.com.

To learn more about the “Better Days” documentary project, visit Nadine’s Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/betteralsdays.

To watch another trailer for “Better Days”, click here: http://youtu.be/B5Cq_jMtHFs

And please share this post on your social media. Tweet, Facebook, and Google+ this to help us spread awareness about ALS, about “Better Days”, and about Cathy.

She’s really something special.

Jennifer Wolfe

Jennifer Wolfe, a writer-teacher-mom, is dedicated to finding the extraordinary in the ordinary moments of life by thinking deeply, loving fiercely, and teaching audaciously. Jennifer is a Google Certified Educator, Hyperdoc fanatic, and a voracious reader. Read her stories on her blog, mamawolfe, and grab free copies of her teaching and parenting resources.

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